The best way to deal with any challenge is to have the right information and enough information to make a decision. As a caregiver, you are often in a place where you do not even know what to ask. The solutions are not always simple, but they are usually straightforward. Most caregiving issues are secondary to healthcare or mental health changes rather than financial or legal. Here are some concrete solutions.

1. Talk frankly to your healthcare provider. If you need to make a special appointment to have this conversation, make the appointment and keep it. It depends on the condition of your loved one if you have them with you at this appointment.
2. Ask about the short-term consequences of the disease or condition. What can be expected for the short run? Short-term may be as brief as weeks or as long as months. Ask the healthcare provider to speak to you in terms you understand.
3. Ask about the long-term consequences of the disease or condition. For planning purposes, you need to know what to expect months or years after the caregiving begins. Do you need to include legal and financial professionals on the team? Is this a terminal condition and if it is, what can be expected? 
4. Get the medical, legal documents that allow you to act as an advocate/agent for your loved one. An attorney can help you with Powers of Attorney. A healthcare provider can help you complete a POLST (Physician Ordered Life-Sustaining Treatment) or DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) document. Get these documents prepared while your loved one is still able to participate in the decision making because you are carrying out their wishes.
5. Don’t make assumptions. Do not anticipate that someone else will point out the things that you need to do. Each discipline will be competent in their role and task, but will not necessarily know what other professional’s parts are. Use a geriatric care manager for this comprehensive oversight and direction.

If you are a caregiver, having the best, most accurate and comprehensive information will help minimize the stress of the tasks. The internet is always a source, but do not rely on that as your primary source. The professionals on your team will guide and direct you to make sure the unique needs of your situation are addressed prospectively.